January 09, 2008

Tears of a Clown

The first book that made me cry, tears streaking down my cheeks and everything, was Interview with the Vampire. There's a scene near the end in which, as far as I remember it, Louis and Lestat (that would be Brad and Tom, respectively), two old friends long separated, meet again in New Orleans, have it out, and then walk away from each other without really saying goodbye. Perhaps because I was thirteen, perhaps because I'd read the book on the suggestion of a certain boy, perhaps because it was entirely appropriate--age and boys aside--to be heartbroken over the dissolution of such a love, no, such a friendship, no, such a love, I could feel the physical ache in my chest as my eyes licked--no, sponged--across the page. I wouldn't say I was consumed by the story (although my book report came back with teacher scribbles to the effect of "Too much detail! I asked for a SHORT *underline underline underline* summary!"), but I was definitely touched. Affected. Even deeply so.

I remember reading that farewell scene over and over again in moments when I was feeling particularly angsty and needed something to get the waterworks going, you know, for proper effect. Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't. Also handy: Richard Marx, "Right Here Waiting for You." I had a pretty cushy adolescence as those things go, and I tended toward overdramatization of what was essentially a straight-A-homebaked-cookies teenhood, and Richard Marx played a big part in my emoting. I mean, my biggest problem was that I hated piano lessons. Boo hoo, right?

The first movie that made me cry was Savannah Smiles**. When it happened, the crying, it caught me completely off guard because I couldn't have been more than eight or nine, an age when I wasn't yet familiar with the happy cry or the sentimental cry or the ow-those-are-my-heartstrings-you're-tugging-at cry. Back then, crying was for falling out of trees, falling off of skateboards (I was a bit of a tomboy), and, of course, expressing one's dismay over the dread piano lessons, but nevertheless there I was, watching Savannah gaze out the rear window as her parents drove her away from her new best friends (a pair of criminals, albeit with hearts of gold, naturellement), and out of nowhere I felt a lump in my throat and my eyes get all swimmy, and then I buried my face in the couch as casually as I possibly could because my parents were there and I didn't want them to see me crying and think I was weird.

To this day, I hate it when I'm watching a movie and, out of nowhere, feel that telltale lump, those aquarium eyes, and my first instinct is still always to casually bury my face in the couch or casually fake a sneezing fit to cover up my emotion because, ew, I'm crying, I'm such a girl, it's "just a movie." Sometimes this mindchatter gets the best of me and I snuff out the tears; other times, the moment gets the best of me, or I let it get the best of me, and then I'm burying my face not in a couch cushion but in a pillow of tissues because once I get going my nose runs like a Kenyan.

But sometimes it's fun to cry, and sometimes we even need it. I feel like I might need it right now. I think a nice cry would do me good because I haven't cried lately, not really, and because I know it's in there but I can't make it start, and because I think what's churning around inside me is mostly frustration and stress and sadness (and a little bit longing for spring), but it's coming out as anger and petulance, my words slashing into the air with the violence of a samurai sword, and, to really mix metaphors, every time I open my mouth I'm snapping like...some sort of snapping creature, a turtle, yes, and now that I've written that I should tell you that my first thought was, "Hey, at least I, unlike the snapping turtle, have the wherewithal to let go after I've bitten my victim," but then on second thought I realized that people (okay, Simon) would probably prefer that, if I'm going to snap at all, I just snap once, snap hard, and hold on rather than nip at him, over and over and over, until his face is raw and swollen.

It's been five weeks since the miscarriage, and I have been strong and I have been rational and I have been optimistic, but I have also not been my best self. I feel worse about the whole thing now than I did in the days following, and although it's easy to pinpoint exactly why it's worse now, that doesn't make it any better. When I focus on it, I don't have any urge to cry (it's more of an urge to throw myself on the ground and tantrum), but I still think a nice solid jag would serve me well.

This is where you come in:

Dear Internets, what are your best Movies to Make Tears By?


*Why Interview with a Vampire was acceptable book-report material for my ninth-grade English class is a mystery, but more perplexing is what kind of teacher subtracts points from a student's grade for "too much detail" when said student is obviously waaay into reading and writing and literary analysis, even if it is just pop trash? (Hint: It's the same teacher who appears in the third paragraph of this entry. HATE.)

**Today when I think of Savannah Smiles I still get all teary. It was filmed in the Salt Lake Valley and I know a lot of the locations, including the park where Savannah runs away. Back in the eighties, next to the rusty old swingset there'd been a towering metal slide that could burn the skin off your thighs if you even stood too close, and of course it's since been replaced with a plastic playpalace, which doesn't even sit on the ground but on a big mat made of old tires painted the color of Easter grass. Aside from nostalgia, the other reason I well up when I think of this movie is because the star, Bridgette Andersen, became addicted to heroin and accidentally overdosed when she was twenty-one, and that's just awful because she would have been Simon's age and I always thought she was so cute.

Posted by Leah at January 9, 2008 12:18 PM
Comments

I cried like a baby while reading Time Traveler's Wife. Then I reread it and cried again. There may have been three rereads and three Cry/Baby episodes. Strangely, I can't remember which movies make me sob.

But M got all teary at the end of Bend it Like Beckham. Which is just too damn endearing.

Posted by: Moose at January 9, 2008 12:44 PM

Without a doubt, Steel Magnolias. I have probably watched it 20 times and every single time it makes me cry. Sometimes it's just a few tears(like when I caught the last 45 minutes of it this past Saturday). Other times it brings a gasping for air sobbing episode that makes my eyes puffy for a full day afterward. Regardless, I hope you get that release you need... Hang in there.

Posted by: Lisa at January 9, 2008 12:49 PM

Love Actually makes me cry every time. The funeral scene just kills me since I know my husband would act the same way. However he cries during Amelie so there you go.

But the one thing guaranteed to make me sob is Little Women when Beth dies. Does not matter how many times I have read it, instant tears.

Posted by: Taylor at January 9, 2008 12:49 PM

What always works for me is to open up "A Prayer for Owen Meany" (Irving) and read the last few pages. I get the tell-tale lump just THINKING about it.

For movies, there is "Beaches", which I always want to soldier through and be all cynical and sarcastic, because COME ON, but no, it gets me every time. And there is "The Fox in the Hound" (shut up) with its story of the friendship/love that could never be. And "Proof", which makes me sob HYSTERICALLY for reasons I can barely begin to understand.

Or if you want a quickie, go on YouTube and find (1) the Pedigree commercial about shelter dogs and (2) the Sarah McLachlan commercial for the ASPCA (or the Humane Society, I am forgetting which). Oh my GOD.

Oh, I could go on. I am such the crier, although often it's at the weirdest times.

And I try to pretend I'm not crying, too, and my husband is often sweet enough to pretend not to notice the snuffles and hiccups coming from the other end of the couch.

Posted by: Lawyerish at January 9, 2008 12:56 PM

I agree with Lisa: Steel Magnolias, every time.

I cry a lot and often (see: last night, Biggest Loser). I seem to always cry at the end of a book, mainly because I'm so in my head and there are no more pages. It's like a transition - through tears - back to the real world.

Posted by: Clink at January 9, 2008 12:56 PM

My most recent Hollywood induced cry was over the end of The Notebook, which I FINALLY watched just to see what all the hooey was about.

I figured out what the end was going to be pretty quick yet still lost it when it got there. Good stuff.

Posted by: Tara at January 9, 2008 12:57 PM

That Sarah McLaughlan pet commercial has been on constantly this week, and because I was warned about it beforehand, I actually change the channel or leave the room whenever it comes on because I just can't deal with shelter pups and kitts. I don't want to get legitimately upset about real animals--I think I just need to be sad about fictional characters for a few hours.

Posted by: Leah at January 9, 2008 12:59 PM

LOVE Richard Marx! And that song in particularly.

I go back and forth between not crying in any movie and bawling in all of them. I'm so weird.

Posted by: Janssen at January 9, 2008 01:01 PM

I can't rec Time Traveler's Wife enough but if you need your cry right now it's a bit of a commitment. Again, though, it's a must read.

What about TV? TV is good for the crying. Did you love Mad About You? Can you get hold of the episodes where they almost break up because she kissed her boss and Paul walked around the block with that woman? Or better yet the entire finale? That'll do you. The scene in the elevator after Burt...yeah. Those break up eps broke me in 2 when they first aired.

I'll also take pretty much any sports movie from the Mighty Ducks to Miracle to Field of Dreams to Vision Quest. As soon as those bastards start to overcome the odds I lose my shit.

It wasn't a real crying movie for me but I recently saw Waitress and it's so lovely and the filmmaker was senselessly murdered and there's a baby so it's got great potential. It also has Nathan Fillion, which is never a bad thing.

I could keep going but I think it's clear by this point that I'm crazy so I'll stop.

Posted by: Kizz at January 9, 2008 01:08 PM

The Notebook is a great one for a good cry, Out of Africa always works for me and if you're able to go there - Old Yeller. This is a weird suggestion, but every time I pop in the discs, I get at least one emotional moment per episode - West Wing Season 1 and Season 2. And finally, I haven't seen it yet, but I've heard Atonement is a tear jerker.

Here's to hoping you get the cry you need.

Posted by: Tamara at January 9, 2008 01:10 PM

I am another one of those strange people that cries in books more than movies! Plus my best all-time cry movie is an obscure South African film based on the book of the same name about a dog with a heart of gold - Jock of the Bushveld. Its the mix of music and actors that I remember from my childhood and a story about a dog that just combines to break my heart every time. Last year I finally tracked down a copy on vhs from an obscure internet co. I might sit down this week and watch it again!

On a more commercial front, Top Gun is a good tearjerker. I recall being quite suprised by the ugly cry that came over me when I watched that with a group of friends at a birthday movie showing when I was about ten.

Posted by: Super Sarah at January 9, 2008 01:16 PM

Oh, Savannah Smiles. Thanks for yanking that one out from the depths - such happy tears.

I cry a lot while watching movies (I too cried for different reasons over The Notebook and Amelie, and La Vie En Rose recently had me blubbering in my popcorn), but The Barbarian Invasions takes the cake. It was the only film I've ever had to pause because I was crying so hard that I couldn't open my eyes to read the subtitles.

I'll second The Time Traveler's Wife for a good book cry. I also recently couldn't stop sobbing after reading Brother, I'm Dying by Edwidge Danticat. The title really should have been a clue...

Posted by: zan at January 9, 2008 01:20 PM

This is a bad question to ask me. If you really really want to sob. Reign Over Me and Click (both Adam Sandler-turned-serious) are exceptionnal tear jerkers for me.

Posted by: Elizabeth at January 9, 2008 01:20 PM

The first book to make me sob was "Bridge to Terabithia" when I was about 14. I haven't seen the movie because I'm afraid it will taint the memories I have of that book. I can cry at pretty much any movie - happy or sad - but one that made me (and everyone else) sob in the theater was Life is Beautiful. Heart wrenching.

Posted by: Jennifer at January 9, 2008 01:26 PM

It's exceptionally rare for me to cry over books or movies (hence my friends always saying that I'm dead inside,) but I just watched PS I Love You with Hilary Swank and I literally sobbed for almost the entire film. I don't know -- Maybe I'm hormonal right now, or maybe I really just needed a good cry, but it was exhausting, this crying thing. Big Fish also makes me cry, as well as the book Hey Nostradamus! by Douglas Coupland but other than that, nothing else really sticks out in my mind.

Posted by: Martha at January 9, 2008 01:27 PM

"The English Patient" totally makes me sob every time.

And that teacher may have just been a petty booby-sore, but if she was really trying to teach you how to write a summary, then yes, too much detail is inappropriate. You're supposed to pick up on the main ideas only. Of course, she should have been more interested in nurturing your love of reading at that age. See, what you've made me do? I just outed myself as a former English teacher.

Posted by: Rachel at January 9, 2008 01:41 PM

Philadelphia, Sleepless in Seattle (just a little crying but enough), Pursuit of Happyness, Million Dollar Baby, Finding Neverland... Those are few that totally made me sob both recently and that I can remember from back in the day.

I remember seeing the first one at the theatre and I was SO flipping embarrassed because I was sobbing loudly.

Posted by: Christina at January 9, 2008 01:44 PM

Bridge to Terabithia was also the first book that made me really howl. The movie made me sniff too but really (as is usual), the book was way better.
The last movie that made me cry was E.T., which happened to be on when flicking through channels the other day. Surely anyone would sob at the end of that movie.
I am also n ow a bit worried because I just put The Notebook onto my video iPod, which I watch on my commute. I sure hope I don't start crying on the train this afternoon.

Posted by: theotherbear at January 9, 2008 01:48 PM

The Incredible Journey, either the older movie or new one, doesn't matter. Specifically the end, where the oldest son thinks 'his' dog--the older dog didn't make it. And then the older dog comes over the hill and into his arms. goddammit, I'm tearing up at work just writing that.
Anything with animals, pretty much, though...those shelter commercials are a killer.
Also--Time Traveler's Wife made me bawl, too.

Posted by: sylvie at January 9, 2008 01:51 PM

My two weepfest movies are: The Notebook and The Legends Of The Fall. Bonus! Hot dudes!

xoxoxo

Posted by: Angella at January 9, 2008 01:59 PM

Delurking to say that the animal shelter commercials get me EVERY time! They make me want to run to the shelter and scream "I'll take two of everything!" And I have to say that "Sense and Sensibility" does it to me. No matter how many times I watch it, when Alan Rickman carries Kate Winslet, barely alive, up over the hill in the pouring rain... and now I'm all choked up.

Posted by: Emily at January 9, 2008 02:04 PM

If you don't want to commit a full 2 hours to a movie, this:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=DGQVX8iGbgk

reduced me to a gasping-for-breath sobbing mess last month.

The end of Juno KICKED MY ASS as well (and I did SO GOOD holding back tears throughout the entire thing...)

Have a good cry. It works wonders, for reals.

Posted by: jive turkey at January 9, 2008 02:11 PM

the book thief by markus zusak

Posted by: monkey at January 9, 2008 02:18 PM

Oh, you did or did not hear about how Mrs. Swenson got kicked to the curb and then failed upwards into a vice principalship at Jordan High?

'Tis bittersweet.

Posted by: Gretyl at January 9, 2008 02:20 PM

A movie that makes me cry every time is "A River Runs Through It," possibly because it's just so beautiful and also I love Robert Redford's voice reading these very stark, gorgeous lines (book is good, too).

Oh, AND! "The Fox and the Hound" is a guaranteed tearjerker, even if it is Disney ... when I worked as a summer camp counselor we put the movie on for the kids, and I swear, every women there was discreetly wiping her eyes. Hilarious, yet somehow also touching.

And I agree with you about the healing power of crying, fer sure.

Posted by: nicole at January 9, 2008 02:23 PM

The movies I've cried at lately and I DO NOT cry (a lot) (really) (ok maybe):

Beaches
Juno
Dan in Real Life
Imagine Me & You
Steel Magnolias

Oh...and this is embarrassing: Titanic. When Rose says to Jack "I'll never let go" and then she lets go and there goes Leo into the water, dead. That gets me.

Posted by: Heather B. at January 9, 2008 02:23 PM

I cry at pretty much all films not involving Judd Apatow... but Once is the film that made me completely bawl most recently.

Also, you'll probably cry when reading that I taught myself how to play Right Here Waiting on the piano all emo-like.

Posted by: Catherine at January 9, 2008 02:25 PM

Catherine--I had the SHEET MUSIC to "Right Here Waiting..." (And how good of me to bring things full circle with the piano lessons again!)

"Once" is coming up on our Netflix very soon. I'm excited!

Posted by: Leah at January 9, 2008 02:33 PM

Gretyl--Methinks she sold her soul to the devil. That would explain (1) why she gets rewarded when she does a shitty job and (2) why she has no soul.

Posted by: Leah at January 9, 2008 02:36 PM

Life is Beautiful was the first (and probably only consistent) movie I cried (cry) at. Can you cry AT movies?

Posted by: beck at January 9, 2008 02:41 PM

i'll second Martha's suggestion to go see P.S. I Love You. i thought it was because i'm pregnant that i bawled through the whole thing, but maybe it really is that sob-inducing. or maybe Martha's pregnant, too. :)

Posted by: Chantel at January 9, 2008 02:43 PM

Legends of the Fall. I have a big family and that scene where they all get together for dinner and that one seat is empty... it gets me. I couldn't imagine seeing an empty seat at our table. It would crush me.

As for needing to cry about the miscarriage, I know what you're talking about. I cried the morning it happened for about three minutes. After that I thought I was OK with it. I was rational; I was logical. It didn't hit me again until weeks later when I was on the Camino. And when it came time to unburden myself at the Iron Cross, I dropped a stone I'd carried all the way from the U.S. and labeled it Poppy, the nicknamed we'd given the little one.

I felt lighter, better, stronger.

But I would be washed over with grief at random times for months to come. My SIL, the one who gave birth last month, had miscarried about half a year after me. And she and I would both experience these random crying jags over our lost little ones, sometimes at the same time. It was weird.

The haunting continued until I was 20 weeks pregnant. I was constantly plagued with DBT (dead baby thoughts) throughout the pregnancy until then. And then suddenly it all stopped.

I can finally say I'm truly over it. It's amazing that the loss of a little thing that I hadn't even had a chance to feel move could affect me so much or so long. She or he lived for barely 11 weeks and I mourned him or her for almost a year and a half.

It's normal. And you're going to be OK.

Posted by: Hues at January 9, 2008 02:47 PM

I cry at literally everything. Everything. Especially The Biggest Loser. Try a marathon of that, my friend. For books though, The End of the Affair by Graham Greene and Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer. The latter didn't make me cry until I finished reading it and then I sobbed for a good long time. Also, if you can wait a little bit The Opposite of Love by Julie Buxbaum is out later this month (her writing reminds me of Dooce). Also, Souvenir by Therese Fowler comes out next month and everyone who has worked on this book has done the Oprah "ugly cry."

Posted by: Sarah at January 9, 2008 02:48 PM

Delurking!

Oh Leah...I'm a fellow 2007 miscarrier (a distinction neither of us wanted, right?) and I cried more last year than I ever thought possible.

Two of mine have already been mentioned: Beaches & Steel Magnolias. Another is Fried Green Tomatoes. But one that caught me off guard was My Girl with a young Macaulay Culkin. Oh my word. I bawled and bawled and bawled some more. "But he needs his glasses!" Gah...it rips your heart out and stomps on it. But, highly recommended for a good cry. I second Elizabeth's recommendation of 'Click' as a tearjerker.

I just read My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult-have a box of tissues handy.

Posted by: Melissa at January 9, 2008 02:49 PM

Now that I just re-read some of the comments, I'm no longer embarassed to admit to Legends of the Fall and Click. Click, WTF?? They decieved me with Adam Sandler and caught me off guard. So unfair. Oh and Stepmom with Julia Roberts. It's sad to say but the bad movies are always the best at getting you to cry.

Posted by: Sarah at January 9, 2008 02:53 PM

I loved Savannah Smiles.

"I lost control of my ice cream cone"

Posted by: will at January 9, 2008 02:59 PM

A friend said that the old movie, Imitation of Life, is a good tear jerker that I should see. I remember crying when I watched The Whale Rider, The Joy Luck Club, and The Color Purple. At the moment, I can't think of a more recent film that made me cry. Maybe something will come to mind later.

Posted by: Green Eyes at January 9, 2008 03:05 PM

Ah! Someone beat me to "My Girl." That was the first movie I ever cried at and I was shocked at the emotions I felt during that movie. I also ALWAYS cry in "Field of Dreams," where they talk about the doctor and the blue hats for his wife. Gets me every time.

I also just saw "Juno" and "Dan in Real Life" this past weekend and cried in both of those. Such a sap.

As for TV, "Grey's Anatomy" has made me cry far too many times to count, which is embarrassing, but sometimes that show can be heartfelt. Sometimes.

Posted by: Cora at January 9, 2008 03:06 PM

Anything with animals, pretty much, though...those shelter commercials are a killer. - sylvie

Following that lead, I suggest Eight Below (I'd link to the imdb, but your filter thinks it's spam). Just go ahead and fast forward through all the boring parts that have humans in them.

Other than that, just put on the theme song to Forrest Gump and think of dead Jenn-ay and dead Mama (and maybe dead Bubba).

Posted by: Tim at January 9, 2008 03:20 PM

The Sixth Sense. That scene towards the end of the movie when the mother and son are in the car? Oh my goodness, instant tears.

Also, "my nose runs like a Kenyan"? HA!

Posted by: Super-S at January 9, 2008 03:22 PM

The Sixth Sense. That scene towards the end of the movie when the mother and son are in the car? Oh my goodness, instant tears.

Also, "my nose runs like a Kenyan"? HA!

Posted by: Super-S at January 9, 2008 03:22 PM

I hear Hollywood is making "Time Traveler's Wife" in to a movie w/Rachel McAdams and Eric Bana. They will NEVER match the Claire & Henry of my imagination. As for movies to cry to...
- The Spitfire Grill (1996)
- The Man in the Moon (Reese Witherspoon at about 12)
- Jaws (what can I say, I loved Quint)

Posted by: HoneybeeSF at January 9, 2008 03:44 PM

Oh man, I LOVE "Man in the Moon." I watched that a bunch of times, also at age thirteen, because I knew what it felt like to be a kid and have grown-up emotions that people don't think you're capable of having.

Posted by: Leah at January 9, 2008 03:54 PM

Delurking!

My fifth grade teacher read "Where the Wild Fern Grows" to us aloud and by the end of the book, the entire class was teary and it really freaked me out to see my older, male 5th grade teacher with tears streaming down his cheeks.

Posted by: Liz at January 9, 2008 04:34 PM

What makes me cry? The Husband would tell you that anything will do...but Steel Magnolias, Step Mom, Dying Young (theme Julia Roberts) Miss Congeniality.

Also Moulin Rouge, Music From Another Room (featuring a delicious Jude Law)

And The Bridge To Terabithia was also the first book that made me cry. I was about 13 and my brother was reading it for school. I finished it and found my mom, and all I could say was "Why?"

Posted by: Di at January 9, 2008 04:37 PM

Last I checked, certain boy is now a bartender in SLC, married, with a 3 yr old boy. Still an angry punk, though. That one stuck well.

Posted by: Teus at January 9, 2008 04:47 PM

First book that made me cry? I want to say Little Women but I think it was Anne of Green Gables when Matthew died. I sobbed. Heck, it still makes me cry. Count me in as another who weeps at the Sarah McLaughlan pet commercial. I just hug my kitties tight.
I've been crying at random tv shows lately. It's awful. Anything remotely heart-rending does it.
I think my weepiest movie ever was Titanic. And The Notebook. Oh my god.

Posted by: Cari at January 9, 2008 05:43 PM

Teus--You're two-thirds right, and I even know what bar it is. Maybe I'll drop in this weekend...

p.s. Do I know you?

Posted by: Leah at January 9, 2008 06:48 PM

No time to read all the comments, so sorry if they are duplicates. My all time crying movies are as follows:
We Are Marshall (bawled like a baby)
Man in the Moon (every. single. time.)
Armageddon (scene with her and her dad? Slay me now)
Beaches (right?)

Often after I've watched a movie a few times I lose the teariness, but for these, not so much.

Posted by: Paige at January 9, 2008 07:01 PM

Delurking to mention Shadowlands (C.S. Lewis' bio) and What Dreams May Come as serious bawlers. Also a good catalyst for me is Ben Folds' song, "The Luckiest." Gets me every time.

Posted by: Kerry at January 9, 2008 07:32 PM

I was beginning to wonder how no one mentioned "Where the Red Fern Grows" and then Liz came through. I re-read it in high school just to see if it would have the same effect and it did. My mom used to read it aloud to her third graders.

We always made fun of my friend Randall who cried at "Turner & Hooch" but not at "Steel Magnolias." I can still remember sitting in the theater watching Sally Field run down that hallway in the hospital and totally losing it. "Terms of Endearment" gets me every time, too.

Posted by: Mandee at January 9, 2008 08:10 PM

First, the whole needing a good cry thing was so spot on for me today I couldn't believe what I was reading. You read my mind. Amazing.

And for some reason, the movie Ever After with Drew Barrymore is the movie that has made me cry harder than any movie ever. The part when she's fighting with the evil stepsister and she throws the book her dad gave her into the fire... breaks my heart every time. Random, I know. It's not even close to being one of my favorite movies, but boy does it make me sob.

Posted by: Abby at January 9, 2008 09:02 PM

ooooh, I know which book AND the movie version make me cry big old crocodile tears.

CHARLOTTE'S WEB.

I can't even bear to watch it.

Posted by: monkey at January 9, 2008 09:06 PM

You will feel better soon... it just never feels as though you might. But you will.

Posted by: nicole at January 9, 2008 11:40 PM

Japanese Story. Trust me on this one. Its brilliant.

PS I'm an old face under a new name :)

Posted by: she smiles at January 10, 2008 12:29 AM

Avalon. It's a wonderful, underrated Barry Levinson film featuring a very young Elijah Wood.

Posted by: Chris Cactus at January 10, 2008 05:07 AM


Ok, I forgot two good, reliable tearfests: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (which is nice in that it's sort of a sad cry but mostly a hopeful, life-is-beautiful cry) and, um, Rudy (the scene where they give up their jerseys? GAH).

The Notebook also tore me up, but mostly because it reminds me so much of my grandparents. When I read the book (before I saw the movie), I almost threw up I cried so hard. And I usually would consider a book like that to be total schlock, but IT GOT ME.

Posted by: Lawyerish at January 10, 2008 07:09 AM

Um, last night I was watching Mtv Made. The girl who was being "Made" landed a BMX bike trick after only have learned it 2 days earlier. My eyes welled up as her friends and family hugged her and said how proud they were of here...

If you're not THAT sappy...the end of Sister Act made me cry once.

The Notebook, definitely. Sobbing, heaving tears.

OMG. I am that lame.

Posted by: Amanda at January 10, 2008 07:16 AM

I once wrote a whole post about crying movies.
http://www.assertagirl.com/?p=228

Charlotte's Web gets me every time...

Posted by: Assertagirl at January 10, 2008 07:32 AM

I went to comment but first did a find on "notebook" and evidently 8 other people have also suggested The Notebook so....I'll ninth that suggestion. I also will agree that The Time Travelers Wife is an amazing book and made me bawl.

Posted by: stephanie brown at January 10, 2008 08:37 AM

Being a huge animal lover, Marley and Me brought me to tears. I mean, I sobbed....the ugly, can't catch your breath kinda crying.

As for movies, well, I cry at the mere notion of anything sentimental, so take this with a grain of salt...I cried this week at the end of Juno. The Notebook also works...and like a few of your other comments, P.S. I Love You had me crying more than once in the theatre.

OH!! There's a scene involving a dog in I Am Legend that had me bawling as well.

It's official...I'm a huge sap.

Posted by: Miss Pickle at January 10, 2008 08:39 AM

Recently "Red Road" made me cry and 20 years ago it was "The Bear". In between many, many, many tears have been shed and not all films were equally brilliant (some I won't even reveal).

Posted by: Drew at January 10, 2008 09:20 AM

I also read Howard Allen O'Brien's Interview with a Vampire when I was 13. I distinctly remember my frozen yogurt job getting in the way of me finishing it.

I'm a crier from way back, so I'm not sure that I can help with cry-provoking movies or books since I cry at the drop of a hat. Oh wait. My latest big cry? The Dove True Colors commercial on YouTube. Heartwrenching.

Posted by: Alyce at January 10, 2008 09:51 AM

Wow, I came to this post late. I skimmed the other comments, and I also cry each and every time I watch Man in the Moon (one of my favorites growing up).

Also, in no particular order:

When a Man Loves a Woman
Gladiator (and I saw this in a film class in college which wasn't embarrassing AT ALL)
Fried Green Tomatoes (this is the first movie I remember really bawling in, and I was 9 when I saw it)
Million Dollar Baby
Cold Mountain

Posted by: She Likes Purple at January 10, 2008 10:10 AM

My parents took me and my sisters to see *Savannah Smiles* at the drive-in when we were little. I loved the movie -- and the music!

Good cry-inducing movies?
*Bridges of Madison County
Steel Magnolias
Always
Dragonfly*

Posted by: Gina at January 10, 2008 10:45 AM

You need to watch Dragonfly!!!! That movie gets me everytime. I am fine the whole movie, but the very end is just completely overwhelming. It is overwhelming in a good way though... When they say "We could not save her body, but we saved her soul." Ughhh. I have goosebumps just thinking about it!

Posted by: Lisa at January 10, 2008 10:45 AM

Oh, I am such a crier over books and movies -- and I do kind of enjoy it. I think because I almost never cry in or about my own life, except occasionally (cue embarrassing admission) when I've had too much to drink. But that's a new development. I used to be a happy, loquacious drunk. MUCH more fun to be around. I need to work on this.

Anyhow, some of my favorite cry-movies have already been covered, such as Eternal Sunshine, which rips me to shreds. So does Lost in Translation. Glory. Dead Poets Society, OMG. 8 1/2 made me cry, too, but not a lot. More of a choke-up, maybe. Nuovo Cinema Paradiso. Edward Scissorhands. God, I'm an over sentimental dork.

Also, perhaps this is too clichéd to mention? As I'm surprised that no one has --- but Brokeback Mountain seriously made me cry for about...a week. Seriously -- I was kind of a disaster for days. That may be more than you're looking for, though.

As for books, while I can't even remember the *first* one that ever made me cry, I'm pretty sure that at some point along the line Charlotte's Web did the job, though, as it did for monkey, above. In adult times, Breakfast at Tiffany's and the Grapes of Wrath and One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest.

Posted by: no name slob at January 10, 2008 10:45 AM

Bridge to Terabithia! We saw it last year with our 5 yr old daughter and I cried and cried unexpectedly. My daughter wondered what my problem was and I wondered why we didn't know about the extreme sadness involved beforehand (I know - Bad Parents!!). Some songs that made me cry in public places out of the blue after a miscarriage were In the Arms of the Angel - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HU1OaCglgw0 - and Tears in Heaven (even the Muzak versions). Hope this isn't overload for you -- my eyes are pooling up for you just typing this...

Take care,
;.)
Nols

Posted by: Nolita at January 10, 2008 10:58 AM

Oh, girlfriend, there isn't much that doesn't make me cry and I can't even use pregnancy as an excuse because I do it ALL THE TIME.

Last night, I choked up reading to my daughter about Clara Barton, for chrissakes, and the formation of the Red Cross, and about what a wonderful group they are because they go to war and disaster zones [wipes nose] and they don't even c-c-care which s-side you're on. Waaaahhhhh! This is where my daughter comes in with the hug. Mommy can't get through a bed time story. My daughter has an American Girl book we've never finished because the girl's new friend DIES OF CHOLERA in like, chapter 3. My husband has to read those. I can't even be in the room. I'm an emotional trainwreck.

Thank you and goodnight.

Posted by: Brooke at January 10, 2008 11:54 AM

You've already got a bunch of good suggestions, but I can't resist adding my two cents' worth.

Black Beauty, in movie or book form, always makes me cry. ALWAYS. It was the first book I cried at, but the first movie I cried at was Ol' Yeller. My poor parents had NO IDEA what the ending to that movie was like, because I was only about four when I watched it, but they felt awful about it. Apparently, my trauma was mitigated by the puppies at the end

As for movies, well, weird ones make me cry. When I had just gone through a break-up, I watched "How To Lose A Guy In Ten Days" and when Kate and Matthew kiss in the bathroom, it's such a tender, emotional kiss that I was a WRECK during that scene.

"The Patriot" with Crazy Mel made me cry. The death scenes didn't make me cry, though, it was when Crazy Mel's tiny movie daughter, who wasn't speaking to him at the time and refused to say good bye to him, ran up to him yelling, "Daddy! Daddy!" She gave hima great big hug and oh, my God, I dissolved.

My Dog Skip is also a giant tear-fest. It's A Wonderful Life never fails to make me bawl. Oh, God, and The Sound Of Music. Life Is Beautiful is another.

Enjoy your tear-jerkers! It sounds like this is exactly what you need.

Posted by: Ky Eliza at January 10, 2008 12:15 PM

Books: The True and Outstanding Adventures of the Hunt Sisters (sad cry); The Summer Fletcher Greel Loved Me (happy cry)

Movies: Up Close and Personal (sad cry); Love Actually (happy cry); Crash (sad cry)

Posted by: Camels & Chocolate at January 10, 2008 01:30 PM

The Notebook...both the book and movie. I cried so hard, my eyes were swollen shut. No joke. :(

Posted by: Jess at January 10, 2008 01:40 PM

Rudy makes me cry every single time. It is embarrassing. It's kind of a happy cry though.

I also absolutely sobbed at Sisterhood of the The Travelling Pants. I think that might just be me though.

Posted by: -R- at January 10, 2008 02:16 PM

Whale Rider. I can't sit through her speech without tears streaking down my cheeks to match hers.

Posted by: SAJ at January 10, 2008 04:26 PM

I know it's predictable but The Notebook made me weep and weep and weep.
I had a good cry today myself...because I don't think I'll be coming to BlogHer. Waaaaaaaaa!

Posted by: Amanda Brown at January 10, 2008 05:35 PM

OK, I know I'm waaaay late to the party, but I've got one that I don't think anyone's mentioned yet: Welcome Home, Roxy Carmichael. If you had a truly happy teenagehood it might not make you sob intermittently starting from about 5 minutes in as it does me, but it's the first movie I thought of when you posed the question. I loaned my copy to a friend of my husband's and never got it back; I should really go order a replacement copy on DVD right now.

Posted by: Lori at January 11, 2008 06:31 PM

I am also late to the party, but Muriel's Wedding never fails to make me cry...it's the part where Muriel's mum comes to the wedding.

Also, the episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer that has "Wild Horses" in it.

On an unrelated note, I used to listen to "Right Here Waiting" on my walkman and pretend Raphael (the Ninja Turtle, not the painter) was playing the piano and singing to me.

I shit you not. I was a weird kid (who became an even more weird adult).

Posted by: Iris at January 13, 2008 10:09 AM

Hmmm....

Beaches, Steel Magnolias, Terms of Endearment, Love Actually, and Baraka. Baraka makes me cry because it is such a visual Valentine to how big this world is, how sad and beautiful it can be all at the same time. I also cry because I realize how tiny and insignificant I am in relation to this Earth.

Posted by: cagey at January 13, 2008 04:03 PM

AH! Savannah Smiles! And when they buy her the puppy, and then the puppy licks her ice cream, and she is the princess....ah. That was my absolute all-time favorite when I was a kid. I recently rented it again, and sure enough- tears streaming down my face. *sigh*

Posted by: Missy at January 13, 2008 04:08 PM

I cried like a baby during Wit. Emma Thompson's performance and the subject manner killed me. I think I cried through the entire movie. My husband thinks I'm strange.

Most recently, however, I cried during Juno. It's a beautiful, funny, touching movie, but I just don't think I was in the right head space to take on that movie (fertility issues). Maybe in a few years, I'll revisit it to see if it still makes me cry.

Posted by: Erin at January 14, 2008 09:02 PM

I am delurking as well, at little late but better than never. I have to agree with whomever mentioned A River Runs Through It. I think it's the effect of Robert Redford narrarating the story. I love his voice and it fits perfectly with the images. It's such a beautiful film. I could cry just thinking about it!

Posted by: Karen at January 15, 2008 04:04 PM