A Girl...

Oh Leah... What is he thinking?? Hang in there, sweet stuff. The Internet's rallying behind you!

Oh Leah, I'm so sorry.. You were so wise last year when I was having similar issues, and I so wish I could return some semblance of wisdom to you. All I can say is that I'm sorry, and hang in there. You're a tough cookie. :)

Second thoughts? Does that mean what I think it does?
I'm so sorry...I hope he comes to his senses...

Oh no! Oh no no no no no!

I hope this doesn't mean what I think it means... I hope you guys can talk it out. I'm not a huggy person by any stretch, but ((hug)).

Hmm, it seems like people all over the Internet world are alluding to something else today.

Thinking of you.

Wanted to add something worthwhile, but I'm just sitting here, kinda shocked. I'm thinking of you and hoping this can turn around.

Leah. I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you, and have been thinking of you for some time.

Much love.

What??? Oh, sweetie! We're here if you need us!

I got all weird and freaked out when my boyfriend moved in. So I had him move out -- officially for a month but technically he spent very few nights at his new "home". Then my fear and weirdness subsided (marginally) and he moved back in. Maybe Simon is just a fraidy cat. Maybe he'll get over it.

Oh, honey. I'm so sorry. I've been worrying about you, having read between the lines here in the past couple of weeks. There's nothing I can say to make it better right now, but I'm here if you want to talk. I know how much it hurts. And I know this is premature and not what you need to hear, but you will make it and you *will* have everything you want in life, even if it doesn't seem like it right this minute.

XOXOXO

Leah, I never comment, but I always read, and my heart leaped into my throat when I read this. I second everything that everyone above has said--most of all my good wishes and my hope for better news next time you write.

Wow. That's really all I can say. Just, wow. I'm more than a little bummed right now. I'd offer you hugs and such things, but I don't really do that. So that's all for now. And obviously we'll be here upon your return.

*hugs*

I can mail you some brownies, if that would be of any comfort. I hope things turn out for the best, you guys are my bliss role models.

I'm already glad I left comments open. Thanks, guys. Nothing is decided, but it doesn't look good. Once again I'm apparently the victim of the mother's disapproval (based on god knows what), and here I thought we were pals. She's afraid I'm scheming to entrap her son, which just goes to show that she has absolutely no handle on what kind of persion I am. I would never do the things she thinks I'm trying to do, and the greatest evidence of this is that I haven't already done those things in times WAY more desperate than this. I'm just baffled.

This is incomprehensible to me. If there were a wish list mothers-in-law could fill out to request what they want in a daughter-in-law, you'd meet at least 95% of the general criteria! Entrap her son??? What is this, the 1700s?

I'm with you on the whole baffled thing.

Leah- I don't have anything novel to say or any nuggets of good relationship advice other than to say I am so sorry. However, please know that I am thinking of you and sending comforting thoughts your way.

Beautiful Blonde One - Just to reiterate the above, I too am rooting for you and hoping that those in the situation who need to come to their senses actually do. Soon.

Wow, I never would have pegged Simon for a momma's boy.

I'm sorry Leah.

You've got mail.

(((Leah)))

That makes me a little sick, although nothing to what you must be feeling. I am so very sorry. We all love you!

Tara--Momma's boy, yes, but in the best way (and with the best mother! who doesn't like to intrude! and only wants her son to be happy! and I'm really seriously not being facetious here; she's awesome), which is why I'm confused. Being that this has happened twice now with two different guys and two different mothers, I think there's something to be learned from it. Either I need to stay away from men who love and respect their mothers and feel entirely responsible for their well-being to the detriment of everyone else, OR I need to stay away from men with mothers, period, OR I need to figure out how to love someone with everything I've got and yet make that come across as non-threatening to the other women in their lives.

I don't really have anything helpful to say... but wanted to express my support for you. I hope that everything works out in the best way possible and that you know how much we are all rooting for you!

Err, well, at least if he has "second thoughts" and then comes back to you he will be *sure.* I know, kind of sorry comfort, that. :( I'm sorry, sweety. Whatever you do, try to stay calm and reasonable, okay? Then hopefully he'll talk it through with you. *luvs*

Further proof that you guys rock: no one is bad-mouthing the man I adore. Thanks for being sensitive to the situation.

Oh Leah.. this must be so difficult. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I'll be thinking of you. Hang in there..

He is far too smart to let you get away. These things happen to couples and they can be overcome. I'm sure that he just needs to think it over, I'm sure it will be OK. Call me if I can help at all.

Leah, I am so sorry. I don't know what to say. We're all here if you need us. HUGE hug.

Sorry Leah...I hope things work out and he comes to his senses because you're too good to let go :) Thinking of u *hugz*

Leah, you are in my thoughts...I'm hoping everything works out for you guys! In the meantime lotsa hugs from me to you :)

From what I have read and what he has written, Simon is obviously a man of intelligence and great taste. I hope the family entanglement is resolved. You guys seem so fabulous together. It is hard to be far away when people you care a lot about are hurting. I want to hug you tight and stroke your hair. Ok, the hair part is purely for me, but still.

So my brother just got married in December to an awesome girl but I know my mom had some problems and not because she does not adore my sister-in-law but because a lot of times a mom is so in love with her son it's hard to imagine him having room for her and someone else (all sub-consciously of course). Maybe that is partly the problem. Needless to say none of that makes what you're going through suck any less. I'm thinking about you.

Second thoughts are not necessarily final thoughts...

My boyfriend broke up with me at one point during our relationship and here we are 6 years later, still going strong! Sometimes space isn't a bad thing. Granted, I say this after the fact because I was completely devastated at the time.

Anyway, I just posted about hating know-it-alls and here I am being one. I too am thinking about you, chica! I wish you good honest conversation with Simon about all this.

xoxo - rosie

i gasped when i saw this. omg. i have nothing to say. nothing that will make you feel better. unless it makes you feel better to know that no mother has ever liked me but my own. t's hates me. i am hoping that simon can realize that you are wonderful and amazing and worth it. i'd marry you if i weren't already, it weren't illegal and i weren't straight. hang in there.

I actually teared up with I read that. Tears in my eyes for real.

Why yes, I am a raving lunatic, thank you.

I'm here for you in disgustingly cold Ohio, if you need anything. :)

Damn. Sounds like an annoyingly tough and complicated situation for everyone involved, I'm really sorry to hear that. Just another person who's rooting for ya'll to get through this.

I hardly every comment but reading that made my heart hurt. Your love for each other comes through everything that you write. My thoughts are with you and I hope everything works out for you and Simon.

Damn Leah...I hope everything works out and you are seen for the lovely, talented woman you are.

I have seen many rough situations turn bright and so I'm just going to send you the best thoughts on this one that this things work out for the best for you. I'm saddened to admit it, but I wasn't always so sure about my potential to-be-married-into-my-already-in-laws (now great in-laws). Things are scary when we aren't in control. Wishing you hugs and... whatever else you need.

I am sorry things are rough right now. Here's to hoping that things turn out alright. I don't have an magic words to make things better. But I'm thinking of you.

Ack. ACK! I'm all panicky here on the right coast. I hope this is just a glitch in transmission - I'd certainly never stop dating a hot momma like you.

Although momma might be a touchy word right now.

Chris and I are sending all our good energies your way. This will work out. It will. *hugs*

Oh, Leah. So sorry to hear things are rough for you guys. Sending transatlantic good thoughts in your direction...

xoxo

Oh Leah I'm so sorry to hear this. I too went through this a while after I had moved in with my boyfriend. What I found was that there were a lot of things unsaid and they didn't come out until our relationship was on the line. After a lot of talking and a few months later things were better than ever. I'm hoping that you and Simon can work things out, you both seem to adore each other.

Oh crap Leah....I don't know what to say. I'm hoping that everything will work itself out. Geez. Blindsided, I'd say! Seriously - if you are in need of homebaked chocolatey goodness email me.

hugs, to both of you. I hope this all works out.

xo.

oh -just read this now. oof. hang in there! i hope everything works out for you. i really do.

Ack. Leah, I feel for you. My heart dropped reading this...I know how much it sucks after having just gone through similar emotions not too long ago.

All I can say is that Simon would be a fool to let you get away...you're a true gem and I seriously hope he realizes it before it's too late.

Urgh. I really, really hope that you and Simon can work this out. Not so incidentally, if my son can find someone like you, who loves him with everything she's got, I'll embrace her and make her part of my family.

Oh, Leah - I am so sorry to read about the heartache you are going through. Not sure how many here are M-I-L's, but I am. Well, was. A few months ago, my D-I-L of 25 years decided to pack it in, quite unexpectedly. We were all shocked; most of all my son.

I never minded sharing my son with her, and lived over 3,000 miles away all those years. You are a beautiful woman, clever with words, and intelligent. Since I can't be your M-I-L, can I adopt you?

Virtual hugs,

Judie

Glad now, reading your most recent post, that Simon is having third thoughts.

As always I'm late to the party, but (and I'm working my way from the last post I read on up) from Texas T-bone's comment y'all are talking it through? On my way to read for myself but much loves in any case to you both while you work it all out.